quantumshaman (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} quantumshaman) wrote,@ 2008-05-07 10:38:00 |
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| Entry tags: | anger, authenticity, programs, q&a |
Anger Management 101
| ANONYMOUS WROTE: I agree that one aspect of genuineness is not putting on an act to please others because I'm afraid of what they will think of me.. we all have dual personalities, both pos. and neg., but many are afraid of exposing their negative personalities, probably because they feel it does no good only harm. |
In itself, that is just another program - though one we aren't alwaysa ware of because it is what might be called "the dominant paradigm". We're programmed to be "polite" or politically correct (whatever that might mean), and so we actually BELIEVE it is "harmful" to be our genuine selves at times when we might feel anger or any of the other typicaly "negative" emotions. But in reality, what I've observed is that once we find the real AWARENES that this is just another program, we lose a huge amount of self-importance in the sense that we no longer feel COMPELLED to be polite or politicaly correct or even to display only "positive" emotions. What that means is - knowing we do not HAVE to "play by the rules", we become far more inclined to react to each and every situation w/ greater awarenes in the moment. In other words, we don't HAVE to be polite, but neither do we HAVE to be angry. When we realize that is when we begin to act (not just re-act) from the assemblage point of the authentic self.
| ANONYMOUS WROTE: |
| What is still an issue is reacting angrily to perceived abuse even tho I would like not to.. and, keeping my 'watchman at the gate of impressions' doesnt help at times.. especially when tired and hungry.. wondering what works for you.. |
Anger is one of those issues that I think most warriors (those who honest anyway) face throughout their lives - largely because it is part of our human nature. And, as I've stated many times, it CAN be used to our advantage if/when we come to the awarenes of what anger really IS.
Keeping in mind that I'm far from perfect, what works for me in this area is what I said in the first paragraph: awareness that so-called "appropriate responses" are only programs from the consensual reality. We are expected to "act like an adult", for example... but when we really start to examine it, what we find is that the "rules" for adult behavior are really only agreements put onto us at an early age, and which we have accepted as the "default", when - ultimately - it is nothing more than the program in operation at its deepest levels.
When a warrior realizes that "appropriate responses" are usually what is appropriate to the NOW, and not what is "appropriate" to social etiquette, a lot of baggage and expectations fall away, and we take a step closer to inhabiting the assemblage point of the authentic self.
Bottom line: if we are "acting' (whether in a positive or negative manner, so to speak), we are not being authentic. And it is only in the experience of the authentic self that we begin to answer the first question; "Who are you?"
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